You could be angry that I assumed you were something you're not?

Maaaaan, you really need to take a look at what you originally wrote.

You wrote:

"Here's what i'd like to do:

Have only me working (ie not my wife)"

No where did you explain that it was your wife's choice. I didn't assume. I simply took at face value what you said about it being you who'd like for you only to work and not your wife.

If I misunderstood that, then it's your fault for not explaining it clearly in the first place. If you won't want people to misunderstand then maybe you should express yourself more clearly.