Regardless, of what your religion, your status in life, your income, your gender or background, thing like this is a matter of personal decision. I will translate in English my recent post...

You have been like that even before, you just did NOT know it because there was no opportunity for you to know that part of yourself. That is called "old-nature." Life's situations magnify us. Like money...they say that money changes people. But no. It just simply magnifies who you really are. Some people, become more generous and self-less whan they become rich, while some live life as if that day was his last...each day.

To get into a relationship other than your spouse is an old nature that has not been overcome yet. So it is a personal decision of a person to get into it or simply avoid it. You can only do that if you are aware of your old nature to know your own strengths and weaknesses.

If you dont know them, then you dont know how you will do when you face that opportunity that will be presented to you. And, in this life, time will come for that testing, for that opportunity to come. So brace yourself.