well sorry canarybird, if i offended you somehow, but the important thing is i come cross my point to skdkk and he agreed on my last post that i am sorry if i sound lecturing. you are right, i hv no right to interfere anybody life, but as human being is only nature to give warning/advise to somebody and is up to the person wheather to take it or leave it. and in your case, maybe you should start be positive and not too hard-head.