Both my parents are Vietnamese although from different cities and totally different worlds. I came to England when I was under 2, nearly 3 decades ago.
Unfortunately, or fortunately they are now separated (I prefer to say fortunately as I saw first hand the destruction of a once great and happy family through bitter fighting)
I also believe that emotional blackmail and the use of the children at any cost to hurt the other is dispicable and immoral (once again as I witness it first hand).
I have two older brothers, both muslim, one of which is happily married to his pakistani wife and the other a vietnamese girl from Vietnam that he treats as his slave, and not his wife (I don't speak to him anymore).
After my parents split some 13 years ago, I raised 3 of my younger siblings (and did a damn good job, if I don't mind saying so).
My beautiful baby sister (she will always be my baby sister although she was 23 last month) has been with her first and only boyfriend (they are planning to get married at some point) for 5 years, an UK born Indian, to whom his parent have not, and is likely to never accept her, as she is not Indian and of a specific caste (also she's too educated, the mother in law wants a slave at home whereas she is a civil engineer and he's a mechanical engineer).
So in my own family, one mixed marriage has worked, one same race marriage is a prison for my sis-in-law to which I don't approve (although believe no-one should come between a man and his wife) and my sister's relationship with her boyfriend, well, I believe such a bright, caring and beautiful girl deserves to be accepted and appreciated by the in-laws as I believe that she is better than that!
That's why I posted this topic, although I made references about myself.
Both my parents are Vietnamese although from different cities and totally different worlds. I came to England when I was under 2, nearly 3 decades ago.
Unfortunately, or fortunately they are now separated (I prefer to say fortunately as I saw first hand the destruction of a once great and happy family through bitter fighting)
I also believe that emotional blackmail and the use of the children at any cost to hurt the other is dispicable and immoral (once again as I witness it first hand).
I have two older brothers, both muslim, one of which is happily married to his pakistani wife and the other a vietnamese girl from Vietnam that he treats as his slave, and not his wife (I don't speak to him anymore).
After my parents split some 13 years ago, I raised 3 of my younger siblings (and did a damn good job, if I don't mind saying so).
My beautiful baby sister (she will always be my baby sister although she was 23 last month) has been with her first and only boyfriend (they are planning to get married at some point) for 5 years, an UK born Indian, to whom his parent have not, and is likely to never accept her, as she is not Indian and of a specific caste (also she's too educated, the mother in law wants a slave at home whereas she is a civil engineer and he's a mechanical engineer).
So in my own family, one mixed marriage has worked, one same race marriage is a prison for my sis-in-law to which I don't approve (although believe no-one should come between a man and his wife) and my sister's relationship with her boyfriend, well, I believe such a bright, caring and beautiful girl deserves to be accepted and appreciated by the in-laws as I believe that she is better than that!
That's why I posted this topic, although I made references about myself.
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