I think your partner is right, for one thing working in Qatar on business visa is illegal,( better come on work visa) some employer will just abuse you..they will promise so many things and in the end it's just empty promises...if you really want to be with him, talk it out...also if you will go to Qatar and he is staying in another gulf area...you are better off in the Philippines...it's the same situation you are still away from each other..