Your definition would depend whether you view death as:

1. Evolution, 2. reincarnation 3. or resurrection & judgment.

I view destiny into two:

1. absolute or pre-destination as jaunti mentioned- means beyond our control e.g our family, race.  It is program by higher beings if you believe in 2 or 3 above

2. free will-  it means with our choices we shape our lives as thexo was saying.  E.g. education, work, single or married.  Other people say being single or married is a destiny but I think it is a choice.

 

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