...I have nieces and my bestfriend's son whom I take out to the mall sometimes. One time we were at a mall with my bestfriend and her kid, just strolling and suddenly the kid (3yrs old)started crying and pointing at something. It was a girl (maybe 5ish) wearing this little devil grin on her face, apparently what she did was she sneakily walked behind us and pulled his hair, obviously it hurt because the wouldn't have cried if it didn't. We didn't see what he did, he could have given her the face or whatever but he never let go of my hand so he couldn't have hit her (I wish did actually). So, what I did was I held the kid on one hand and my best friend on the other and while I was giving the naughty girl the look, we walked towards her and I asked her where her parents trying to wear a calm face so she wouldn't run away. But, of course I had to ask her a million times because she didn't speak english, I even tried talking in their language. Finally, the women the girl was with, whom btw let this kid gallivanting out of their site while they were inside a shop, came out of the shop and saw me talking to their kid. They asked us, mainly me, what was the problem (in their language) and so I asked this lady, with her face covered, if she was the mom, but whether she was or not, I just told her, with my constant hand pointing gesture, that she should discipline her kid and if possible, not to attack kids in public because in a normal environment, people, especially kids, don't just do things like that and they were lucky I didn't pull their kid's hair back. But of course, we knew it was a waste of time because we were almost certain they didn't get a thing we said. How? Well when we looked back at them they were just laughing and smiling at each other, probably telling the little girl, "Oh we are so proud of you, good job!" So I told my bestfriend's kid, "next time someone hits you and you didn't do anything, hit them back twice as hard" But of course that was just me being annoyed at those women.
Bottomline, we can't teach other's how to raise their kids but can raise ours how we want. If I was a mom, I would probably tell my kid the same thing as what I told my bestfriends kid. I wouldn't want my kid to bullied, neither be a bully.
“They say you can't live without love. Tell them oxygen is more important!.”
...I have nieces and my bestfriend's son whom I take out to the mall sometimes. One time we were at a mall with my bestfriend and her kid, just strolling and suddenly the kid (3yrs old)started crying and pointing at something. It was a girl (maybe 5ish) wearing this little devil grin on her face, apparently what she did was she sneakily walked behind us and pulled his hair, obviously it hurt because the wouldn't have cried if it didn't. We didn't see what he did, he could have given her the face or whatever but he never let go of my hand so he couldn't have hit her (I wish did actually). So, what I did was I held the kid on one hand and my best friend on the other and while I was giving the naughty girl the look, we walked towards her and I asked her where her parents trying to wear a calm face so she wouldn't run away. But, of course I had to ask her a million times because she didn't speak english, I even tried talking in their language. Finally, the women the girl was with, whom btw let this kid gallivanting out of their site while they were inside a shop, came out of the shop and saw me talking to their kid. They asked us, mainly me, what was the problem (in their language) and so I asked this lady, with her face covered, if she was the mom, but whether she was or not, I just told her, with my constant hand pointing gesture, that she should discipline her kid and if possible, not to attack kids in public because in a normal environment, people, especially kids, don't just do things like that and they were lucky I didn't pull their kid's hair back. But of course, we knew it was a waste of time because we were almost certain they didn't get a thing we said. How? Well when we looked back at them they were just laughing and smiling at each other, probably telling the little girl, "Oh we are so proud of you, good job!" So I told my bestfriend's kid, "next time someone hits you and you didn't do anything, hit them back twice as hard" But of course that was just me being annoyed at those women.
Bottomline, we can't teach other's how to raise their kids but can raise ours how we want. If I was a mom, I would probably tell my kid the same thing as what I told my bestfriends kid. I wouldn't want my kid to bullied, neither be a bully.
“They say you can't live without love. Tell them oxygen is more important!.”
- G. House