I am in somewhat of the same type of situation as your father. I married an Indian (british well educated and brought up in england) and my father never saw or talked to my husband and children before he passed away.

Reading your story it sounds like their may be more to the story then what your told. And in my opinion you should try to make a bridge between your two families in any way possible. As long as you are aware and able to protect yourself if faced with adversity. And remember that obeying your father is of the utmost importance in Islam.

Maryum : Umm Hasan bint Abdullah Alshabrawishi