No, she would not be a slave. But it is our house and she would be our employee. I have no desire to "control" her, but I do have a say in things that could impact our family in a big way. If her husband decides that he likes my little kids or their playmates a bit too much then that is going to be a big problem, to say the least.

I don't know (yet) what her current arrangement (or that of her husband) is for housing , but she would be making a *choice* to live here rather than to commute from the home she presumably shares with her husband to another job.

So, yeah, I have a right to decide whether or not her husband will be able to come over and stay a night. . .and she has a right to decline the job if my decision doesn't work for her.

I'm simply trying to get a handle on whether or not what she is asking for is the norm. . .and how others with similar situations have handled it.