If I decide that I want to sit at home and look after my babies, it should be my choice not my husband's wish or desire or command. If i want to do hijaab, I would do it for Allah not for a man. I don't like it at all when a man expects a doormat for a wife. I am an individual and have my own likes & dislikes. I have a mind of my own and I want to make my own choices. What is wrong with that?