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1) Not really, I didn't think about it because that would be weird.. haha.. but I guess in a way I did. I didn't want someone like my father. I just wanted someone that would love me as much as my father loves my mother now. She suffered for a long time because of the abuse, but then he changed and loves her so much now. They are both 100% faithful to one another and that's what I want from a husband too.
2) I think I answered this in question 1
3) No, 99% of the time it was no. I never threw out my dad or mentioned my father in our arguments. I did realize that his jealousy and anger issues reminded me of my dad in his younger days and 1% of the time I would tell my ex this.
4) No, usually it was 40/60. With him dominating me 60% of the time. I usually would cater to him. Serve him his meals, wash his clothes, etc.
5) In a way yes, I would tell him that I needed someone that would be there for me like I was there for him. I would pay for alot in our relationship and I told him that I wanted someone that would pay for stuff for me or take me out like I did it for him. I told him I wanted that someone to be him. That I wanted him to do nice things for me too.
6) No, I didn't tease him. I did tell him that he needed to be more motivated about finding a permanent job.
7) No, I did show him soo much love and affection and would flirt with him and tell him how he was the only one I wanted and loved.
8) I'm not sure I understand this question. sorry.
9) Yes, because he didn't have a job. I found myself paying for everything for him including paying his bills.
10) I complained about his brother mostly. I told him that if his brother loved him that he wouldn't convince him to smoke weed everytime he'd visit his brother. I told him that if his brother loved him and respected him that he would not do it at least while my ex visited him.
I really liked your saying. I didn't realize it but yes it's true. Everytime I pointed a finger at what he was doing wrong. He was pointed more at me to tell me why it was my fault and how he resented me sometimes. thank you again!!
Answers..
1) Not really, I didn't think about it because that would be weird.. haha.. but I guess in a way I did. I didn't want someone like my father. I just wanted someone that would love me as much as my father loves my mother now. She suffered for a long time because of the abuse, but then he changed and loves her so much now. They are both 100% faithful to one another and that's what I want from a husband too.
2) I think I answered this in question 1
3) No, 99% of the time it was no. I never threw out my dad or mentioned my father in our arguments. I did realize that his jealousy and anger issues reminded me of my dad in his younger days and 1% of the time I would tell my ex this.
4) No, usually it was 40/60. With him dominating me 60% of the time. I usually would cater to him. Serve him his meals, wash his clothes, etc.
5) In a way yes, I would tell him that I needed someone that would be there for me like I was there for him. I would pay for alot in our relationship and I told him that I wanted someone that would pay for stuff for me or take me out like I did it for him. I told him I wanted that someone to be him. That I wanted him to do nice things for me too.
6) No, I didn't tease him. I did tell him that he needed to be more motivated about finding a permanent job.
7) No, I did show him soo much love and affection and would flirt with him and tell him how he was the only one I wanted and loved.
8) I'm not sure I understand this question. sorry.
9) Yes, because he didn't have a job. I found myself paying for everything for him including paying his bills.
10) I complained about his brother mostly. I told him that if his brother loved him that he wouldn't convince him to smoke weed everytime he'd visit his brother. I told him that if his brother loved him and respected him that he would not do it at least while my ex visited him.
I really liked your saying. I didn't realize it but yes it's true. Everytime I pointed a finger at what he was doing wrong. He was pointed more at me to tell me why it was my fault and how he resented me sometimes. thank you again!!