I went through a horrible divorce with my first husband. While he was being a complete d!ckhead, my lawyer kept telling me to be nice. While my ex-husband was breaking every rule in the divorce decree my lawyer kept telling me to be nice. In the end, being nice was a good thing even though it was extremely hard to do. My ex-husband lost his joint custody of our daughter and had a restraining order put on him and had to have supervised visitation with my daughter, which he had to pay for and could not afford. Maybe he should have been nice too. After all that, he ended up giving up his rights to our daughter completely. That was one of the happiest days of my life. So I guess it does pay to be nice when people treat you like sh!t!

Motherhood...The hardest job you'll ever love! : )