Thank you. I'm sure it was hard for you to leave your ex and I commend you for your courage. It's hard when you want to help someone, but they don't want to seem to help themselves. "Auto-destructive". That is the perfect summary to him. I believe I do love myself enough, but I don't like failure and if I couldn't help him with all the love that I have for him, then I'll feel like I failed. I'm trying to understand and accept that "you can't change or help someone, that doesn't want help".. I truly appreciate the time you took to reply.