He is not living with us now, because I am concerned for my children first. If I wasn't then I wouldn't care that he smoke marijuana. But I do care about my children. That is why I told him that I would not let him back in our home, unless he got help for his problem and temper. He has never had a bad temper with my children. I don't know what you mean by martyr. I do know how to live without a man. I know I am very capable of raising my children on my own. I did it on my own for more than 10 years before I met him.
However, I have a heart that I know is rare. I empathize with him. I know about how he was raised and why he is the way that he is. I also know that if he wants to change then he can. It may be hard, but it is possible. I love him enough to be here if he is willing to try.
He is in a live-in religious based program now. He has been living there for almost 2 weeks now. He is not allowed to leave the premises for the first 30 days. After that only 1 day of the week and he has a curfew. They give him random drug test to make sure that he is not doing any kind of drugs or drinking alcohol. He is learning about God and writes our kids to let us know how he is doing. He has even written us bible scriptures. I am very proud of him and I pray that he can make it through. It took alot for him to go and it shows me just how much he loves us.
I think of God and God's love for us. We all have issues and problems, yet God never turns his love away from us. He never gives up on us. I know I cannot offer unconditional love, as I am not God. However, I can offer my love on the condition that he try to change his life around for the better so that we can have a better life together.
I will look into the book you recommended. I don't know many women that can be without a man for 10 years or more, so I don't know if even the author of that book has done that. I know I don't need a man to be happy. However, I am trying to not be selfish and just think of me. I want a father for my children and he loves them with his whole heart even though he is not their biological father. He has always been kind to them and treated them as his own.
Thank you for your comment. I truly appreciate your time and good intentions. Have a great day :)
He is not living with us now, because I am concerned for my children first. If I wasn't then I wouldn't care that he smoke marijuana. But I do care about my children. That is why I told him that I would not let him back in our home, unless he got help for his problem and temper. He has never had a bad temper with my children. I don't know what you mean by martyr. I do know how to live without a man. I know I am very capable of raising my children on my own. I did it on my own for more than 10 years before I met him.
However, I have a heart that I know is rare. I empathize with him. I know about how he was raised and why he is the way that he is. I also know that if he wants to change then he can. It may be hard, but it is possible. I love him enough to be here if he is willing to try.
He is in a live-in religious based program now. He has been living there for almost 2 weeks now. He is not allowed to leave the premises for the first 30 days. After that only 1 day of the week and he has a curfew. They give him random drug test to make sure that he is not doing any kind of drugs or drinking alcohol. He is learning about God and writes our kids to let us know how he is doing. He has even written us bible scriptures. I am very proud of him and I pray that he can make it through. It took alot for him to go and it shows me just how much he loves us.
I think of God and God's love for us. We all have issues and problems, yet God never turns his love away from us. He never gives up on us. I know I cannot offer unconditional love, as I am not God. However, I can offer my love on the condition that he try to change his life around for the better so that we can have a better life together.
I will look into the book you recommended. I don't know many women that can be without a man for 10 years or more, so I don't know if even the author of that book has done that. I know I don't need a man to be happy. However, I am trying to not be selfish and just think of me. I want a father for my children and he loves them with his whole heart even though he is not their biological father. He has always been kind to them and treated them as his own.
Thank you for your comment. I truly appreciate your time and good intentions. Have a great day :)