if you could look at my previous posts...this is my way of strengthening my conviction. I have stayed single and unattached for 35 years controlling whatever emotions I may have for men who professed their love for me because my true happiness at the moment is the welfare of my siblings and their families, my two old aunts who have also remained single, my father and his new life with my stepmother (my mother passed away already..today is actually her 7th year death anniversary)...I may have been swayed for a while,but I will collect all the strength I could get, rebuild my fortress and maintain my single blessedness along with all of your reminders and comments. :)