I usually dont have time to come back more often to QL, but here I am checking what I got as responses.. and I am shocked to see so many replies and see it being converted into a debate.
I asked secretly to have a debate because if it wasnt a debate then I wouldnt get a proper feedback.
I believe that what you said was well said. I had a friend that had a 2 years old girl. She bought her maid a mobile phone.. then they discovvered weird stuff at home.. not sure what they were though.. anyway, my friend felt as if someone was coming home while they were away.. a friend of her called the maid and pretended he dialled a wrong number... then started talking to the maid and to their surprise they discovered that the maid invited him over to have a night with her and pay her!!! what about that?? she used to let men enter her house while their daughter was sleeping.. that's freaking disgusting.!!
Now, our maid is married. Ok, how should I trust her?? She was married, maybe there will come a day she will need a man?? Anyway, concerning the Singaporean nationality, she is not from there. She is from Philipines.. I just wasnt understanding her. She has 2 kids, Christian and Christianne and takes care of her sisters 3 kids. I know all her life now. haha!
I have set up rules and I feel comfortable with it. I dont cross the borders and I am not that nice. I know she is a human, and I am no better than her.. but this is a job, and I am her boss. She does what I please to... I have a job myself and I do what my boss wants me to do.. this implies to all of us, right?
Anyway, me and my husband have seemed to agree with bringing her a mobile phone. She cries a lot, every other day she comes to me in tears remembering her kids. She said she wants a mobile bec she can text them. We talked and we are going to bring her a SIM card but my husband will screen the incoming and outgoing calls. And its our rights to do so. If we think something bad is happening then we will take actions. As long as nothing bad is happening, then is ok. So, we are cancelling the landline thing to the mobile usage. And we are fine with it.
Second, I bring her all personal things..soap, shampoo, etc.. but I refuse to buy her a special kind of soap.. it goes now to her.. why should I spoil her?? she will ask for more!! she even told me that what she is having here is much better than what she has there back home!! we got the other day coca cola pops and other kind ones. We dont drink Sprite.. so I always tell her that what we bring for us, she can have. She went with me the other day to the supermarket and she took 4 cans of Sprite saying that it was for her. I know that QR4 is nothing. I dont mind buying it, its just the act of her feeling free to select things whenever she pleases to. To be honest, I paid for it. But next time I wont. I told her already that we can get her Sprite and she can drink, but she tells me 'she likes to drink more than 1 Sprite'. She is free to get when she wants, and spending 1QR wont lessen her salary much, right? its just the action of letting her know that we wont get her everything she wants to.
Also, she is now taking care of our 9 months old son which I am almost in tears now when I think of him :( (I am at work and thinking of him).. I now dont allow myself to say anything wrong, I just get scared that she might do something to him out of our treatment towards her. She is nice, so far, but she can let things out while we are away and do stuff to our son :((((((((( He stayed with her yesterday and when I reached home he was running around in his baby walked singing and looking happy. That made me happy and made me realize that she seems to be taking good care of him. My husband told her that he will put cameras around the house if we think she mistreats him.. she sat there looking like a question mark, but then I joked and told her that he is joking.. but we know that she might have gotten scared that maybe we already have cameras installed, right?? OMG, I have seen YouTube videos of maids doing bad things to the kids. OMG OMG OMG, I want to cry!!!!!!!
Anyway, I think that each one their own. It's no one's business how we do our JOBS.
Gypsy,
I think you have no right on judging someone's life. In each house there is a world. We have different brain and we are maid to think differently. We do what WE THINK ITS good for us and our families.. and of course, what's good for the other parties which here we are talking about maids.
Sugar Qtr,
I love how you talk, and I am with u 100% in everything u said!!
PITSTOP,
I am also with u! I am sorry u guys faced such bad maids.. but like we say, we learn from mistakes, right?? but now we learn of other's experiences, and we prevent bad things from happening.. This is logic..
I usually dont have time to come back more often to QL, but here I am checking what I got as responses.. and I am shocked to see so many replies and see it being converted into a debate.
I asked secretly to have a debate because if it wasnt a debate then I wouldnt get a proper feedback.
I believe that what you said was well said. I had a friend that had a 2 years old girl. She bought her maid a mobile phone.. then they discovvered weird stuff at home.. not sure what they were though.. anyway, my friend felt as if someone was coming home while they were away.. a friend of her called the maid and pretended he dialled a wrong number... then started talking to the maid and to their surprise they discovered that the maid invited him over to have a night with her and pay her!!! what about that?? she used to let men enter her house while their daughter was sleeping.. that's freaking disgusting.!!
Now, our maid is married. Ok, how should I trust her?? She was married, maybe there will come a day she will need a man?? Anyway, concerning the Singaporean nationality, she is not from there. She is from Philipines.. I just wasnt understanding her. She has 2 kids, Christian and Christianne and takes care of her sisters 3 kids. I know all her life now. haha!
I have set up rules and I feel comfortable with it. I dont cross the borders and I am not that nice. I know she is a human, and I am no better than her.. but this is a job, and I am her boss. She does what I please to... I have a job myself and I do what my boss wants me to do.. this implies to all of us, right?
Anyway, me and my husband have seemed to agree with bringing her a mobile phone. She cries a lot, every other day she comes to me in tears remembering her kids. She said she wants a mobile bec she can text them. We talked and we are going to bring her a SIM card but my husband will screen the incoming and outgoing calls. And its our rights to do so. If we think something bad is happening then we will take actions. As long as nothing bad is happening, then is ok. So, we are cancelling the landline thing to the mobile usage. And we are fine with it.
Second, I bring her all personal things..soap, shampoo, etc.. but I refuse to buy her a special kind of soap.. it goes now to her.. why should I spoil her?? she will ask for more!! she even told me that what she is having here is much better than what she has there back home!! we got the other day coca cola pops and other kind ones. We dont drink Sprite.. so I always tell her that what we bring for us, she can have. She went with me the other day to the supermarket and she took 4 cans of Sprite saying that it was for her. I know that QR4 is nothing. I dont mind buying it, its just the act of her feeling free to select things whenever she pleases to. To be honest, I paid for it. But next time I wont. I told her already that we can get her Sprite and she can drink, but she tells me 'she likes to drink more than 1 Sprite'. She is free to get when she wants, and spending 1QR wont lessen her salary much, right? its just the action of letting her know that we wont get her everything she wants to.
Also, she is now taking care of our 9 months old son which I am almost in tears now when I think of him :( (I am at work and thinking of him).. I now dont allow myself to say anything wrong, I just get scared that she might do something to him out of our treatment towards her. She is nice, so far, but she can let things out while we are away and do stuff to our son :((((((((( He stayed with her yesterday and when I reached home he was running around in his baby walked singing and looking happy. That made me happy and made me realize that she seems to be taking good care of him. My husband told her that he will put cameras around the house if we think she mistreats him.. she sat there looking like a question mark, but then I joked and told her that he is joking.. but we know that she might have gotten scared that maybe we already have cameras installed, right?? OMG, I have seen YouTube videos of maids doing bad things to the kids. OMG OMG OMG, I want to cry!!!!!!!
Anyway, I think that each one their own. It's no one's business how we do our JOBS.
Gypsy,
I think you have no right on judging someone's life. In each house there is a world. We have different brain and we are maid to think differently. We do what WE THINK ITS good for us and our families.. and of course, what's good for the other parties which here we are talking about maids.
Sugar Qtr,
I love how you talk, and I am with u 100% in everything u said!!
PITSTOP,
I am also with u! I am sorry u guys faced such bad maids.. but like we say, we learn from mistakes, right?? but now we learn of other's experiences, and we prevent bad things from happening.. This is logic..