The lady I wrote about should of been able to get help from her family but in this case her family I guess didn't like the guy so they told her it was her problem, so in each situation their are reasons. Plus, here it would be such an embarrassment until the last few years of the countries growth it was more a village than a city. I even tried I called him and he went off at me that he loved his wife I wanted him to know people knew and were not going to ignore it. His problem was alchohol.