Traditions are traditions and most of the time you have to respect them unless they clash with religion.

Your friend was given some time to get to know her husband, it's natural for her to feel some anxiety and fear, but don't call it "rape" that is beyond ridiculous.

I will have to agree with snessy you are only around to stir sh*t up, this site is full of closet haters and outspoken ones you are only adding fuel.