flor1212, her husband to be would have informed her but she is doing the right thing in asking these questions to independently verify any information she had obtained. If the husband is the open-minded, self-confident one, he will not be threatened by these questions.
It is precisely because she is entering into a lifetime commitment that she has to research and ask these difficult questions before getting married. It's not a matter of not trusting her hubby to be but not going into that serious commitment with blind trust and leave everything to chance. Of course, belief in God as having control over everything but discernment is needed before taking such a big step. I mean, it is a lifetime commitment and those who are serious about it would not think divorce is in the cards.
"Marriage is a lifetime commitment and the way you asked or inquire, it seems that your future husband is not that fully open to you. And you as a western woman, I am quite surprise that you are asking these questions!"
- Why, you expect blind faith? Emotional highs are great but long term commitment needs careful thought. Once committed, of course, then she would have to find ways to adapt to whatever problems arise - but the point being to make a properly informed decision to enter into the marriage in the 1st place.
flor1212, her husband to be would have informed her but she is doing the right thing in asking these questions to independently verify any information she had obtained. If the husband is the open-minded, self-confident one, he will not be threatened by these questions.
It is precisely because she is entering into a lifetime commitment that she has to research and ask these difficult questions before getting married. It's not a matter of not trusting her hubby to be but not going into that serious commitment with blind trust and leave everything to chance. Of course, belief in God as having control over everything but discernment is needed before taking such a big step. I mean, it is a lifetime commitment and those who are serious about it would not think divorce is in the cards.
"Marriage is a lifetime commitment and the way you asked or inquire, it seems that your future husband is not that fully open to you. And you as a western woman, I am quite surprise that you are asking these questions!"
- Why, you expect blind faith? Emotional highs are great but long term commitment needs careful thought. Once committed, of course, then she would have to find ways to adapt to whatever problems arise - but the point being to make a properly informed decision to enter into the marriage in the 1st place.