in this thread people have commented that they envy me for my decision( not to offend anyone who did by the way) i too felt like that and then realised that why should i envy something that is in my control? and decided that it was not for me. I know of people from the UK who have been here for 20 years and love the place, but everyone is wired a little different, and unfortunately, i am wired to think that this is not for me.It may seem that im feeling a bit sorry for myself but im not, i just made a decision based upon my feelings.