It depends on what you mean by 'because of family.' Is your husband Qatari or does he have extended family who are long-term residents in the area? If so that would likely mean an enormous lifestyle change from the American midwest for you.

Regardless, I would make two points (as a fellow European who lived in the US for a while, too). First, QL is hardly representative of life in Qatar. The forum is mostly professional expats and spouses venting, so ignore people like rizzo (they are fictional characters). We can be rude in confrontational because of the anonymity of the it all. People are generally exceedingly friendly in the expat community and very ready make friends. Second, you should come and visit if you are considering a long-term stay. Get a feel for the place and your potential surroundings before committing.

Having said that, my family and I enjoy living here. It's expat compound living for us, which feel akin to village life--good and bad. We are fortunate enough to have an excellent salary and benefits, so we are enjoying the best that the country has to offer in terms of living, schools, etc. Even so, I would not want to make Qatar a long-term home. It's been an interesting experience but I wouldn't want it to become permanent. But that is my own take.

One bonus is that it is a shorter flight to Germany from Doha that from the US! Good luck with your decision.