Oooo no need for people to be mean to each other but thank you for your comments. Messages can be interpreted in many ways and I'm sure everyone was just trying to be honest and put their views across.
It's good to know that if Jon did come under my sponsorship he wouldn't be able to work - it's important for him to follow his career desires/path so fingers crossed this can be found for him in Qatar so we can be together.
The weather is raining in wales (no surprise!) so your not missing much - no doubt when I'm in Qatar I will also miss the rain and green mountains.
Best wishes to you all, have a good day
Trish xx