SubhanAllah! That's really sad what you are saying fubar, and to know that the mother's of the believers would get married with an iron ring, handful of dates.....and they were the most pious, generous, kind, praiseworthy, beautiful women to ever exist. People are falling into haram things for show off. SubhanaAllah our Prophet made the marriage such an easy thing because he wanted people to remain pious and chaste, and he wanted young people to enter the sanctity of marriage with ease.