Mix Marriages

Marriage is work, whether mixed or not. You will always have issue. But hey, if you love the person...go for it. With love, you will be surprised how things can turn out.

hell, who has brought this thread back to life?? it reminds me of better time.. mixed marriages, Kahramaa problems, running away Cookie... Khanan, Owen, Canarybird, King Edshel, jassKat (!), jauntie (!!!)... WHERE ARE YOOOOUUUU?????? I MISS YOU!!

"Seasons came and changed the time..." Bang-bang...

depends on what nationality the wife is... but marriage sucks anyway.. mixed or not mixed.. more than 50% of marriages in the world fall apart, regardless to religion, nationalities, age... whatever.. marriages just falling apart... like if perfect combination of religion, nationality, age, society level, etc., etc., etc. prevents your marriage from breaking.. NO!!! because institution of marriage itself is wrong.. marriage is good for some period of time when both partners have the same goals, targets, priorities, etc.,... once one of above (or anything else) start changing.. khalas, forget about marriage..

In the beginning the cupid works magnificently, but by the span of time it's very hard to cope with

in every relationship, you have to give and take to make things work for you... learn to compromise without losing respect for oneself.

what different is this rant from the speeches by Fanatics Execpt that they are in Arabic?To me it looks like two dif sided of the same coin!

there is a member who converted to islam she is probably from spain i dont remember her id. will check and send you her id link.

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Hi to everybody.

I'd like to hear a personal story from a catholic woman (not churchgoer) converted to islam (in the beginning for love).

Is the relation working? what about the the children education?

I wish to read a loving story, and in the future to tell about my personal experience!

as long as there is respect and understanding it can work. 

Religion should not be a problem as long as you both have a serious understanding what you are getting into before you get married. It helps to have an agreement about how the children will be raised, and what are the core beliefs.

Most religions have the same basic principles, just different ways of getting them. If you realize this, life is not that difficult together!

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It will definitely work if you both love and understand each other, base on my own experience, I am happily married for nearly 3 years now and have a lovely little girl. 

it will definitely work.. if you want it to..

Compassion and understanding is key to any successful relationship, regardless of nationality

This is an example of a healthy thread on a semi-reigious topic.  Posts look good.  Keep up the good work.

Mixing the religions in a marriage makes 2 possible problems.

1.  Some religions usually develop baggage (politics, customs & traditions (within the family who follow that religion and in the institution (church, mosque, etc.)).  Canarybird and others' experiences come from this.  (No offence with word baggage as even I carry religious baggage (being Christian). 

2.  The core beliefs (for example:  being faithful and loving God for the Christian) will be compromised in a mixed marriage.  If they aren't, then I think the people involved (wife and husband) never were that sincere in believing and practicing what they believed.  Harmony may develop but at the price of watered-down, insincere belief.  Children will pick-up on this and be told to choose whichever they want without being shown the best of these different religions.

I say it is 50/50 possiblity

it can go either way. 

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do you really want more lol lol lol

Don't beat about the bush. tell us what you really feel!

My Dad was Irish and very Catholic, my Mum was Scottish - (God bless her cotton socks) was Protestant and converted, My life was the big  living HELL being juged by this one and the other one.

I went to a convent school and was nearly abolished to Ireland to relatives because I had a temper (the tiger in me) but life was bad - my mother a drunkard and my father an ostrich did the church or the school help NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!! F***K them all they asked for was money to build a new church!!! 

MAKES ME MAD TO THINK ABOUT THESE ASS****LES

A couple I know very well nearly divorced last year. He is a protestant and she a Catholic. neither practicing, I may add. However, when the first child arrived, she and her family insisted on baptising the boy and bringing him up as a catholic. He was asked to sign a piece of paper to this effect. this caused great problems within the family.  

the days when anyone who wanted to marry a Catholic had to sign an oath confirming they would bring the children up in the Catholic way.

I can't remember when they abolished that practice, but in 1954 my Brother-in-Law had to sign the declaration before marrying my sister.

I guess if one had to sign something like that then you had to be pretty sure about what you were getting yourself into LOL

Actually, now I come to think about it my Father secretly went to Catachism classes and converted to Catholicism before asking my Mother to marry him.  That would have been in the late 1920s I guess.

We live in different times now ....

Totally right, if you want marriage don't mix religons, it will make the affair more complicated.

mghozlan

Please be sure that even being Catholic and Protestant brings disharmony in the lives of children, being one I know what I am talking about. Catholics like Muslims have a way of life, but if there is a convert in the marriage the life is torn in two ways. Being a Catholic as being a Muslim is a way of life and it starts from birth - if ther eis a pulling and a tugging ofthe parents not one religon will succeed be sure I experienced this first hand!!

it's really nice

because

1- you will able to learn more about a new culture,as well as language.

2-you will find pleasure to get mix with new personality

3-you will be very happy after getting children,as your child start talking in his/her mother language.

I prefer it.

who are going to marry i congratulate them..!!!!!!!!!!

Bye

agree oryx, nothing will end it, except for religion.

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Totally disagree:

 mixing different religion.  Don't do it!  I've heard all the talk about "bringing harmony to the world through mixing religions".   This may happen but the more tragic thing is that one partner's religion is watered down.

Not at all my experience. Values aren't compromised... its respect and understanding.

I don't belive it will work for the long term, it depends mostly on religious beliefs, families traditions and  customs.

If love will fix everything, then why some people who were in love once are not anymore?!!

I can tell you from first-hand experience that mixed marriages work...not only that but...look at the kids that result.  But it takes gumption (inner-strength) and flexibility.  All your assumptions will go flying out the window as you live in a mixed marriage.  Everything changes...not just the petty things (toilet paper positioning or time for eating dinner) but worldview (how to handle children (education, discipline, priorities in decision-making). 

Don't do it if you only want the "look and feel" of a foreign spouse.    It's gotta go deeper than that...much deeper.  Not love exactly but a devotion to each other.  Sure, at first I loved paraoding with dw (who's Korean) along the street and showing her off.  But things have moved much further since then.

One mixed marriage that shouldn't happen:  mixing different religion.  Don't do it!  I've heard all the talk about "bringing harmony to the world through mixing religions".   This may happen but the more tragic thing is that one partner's religion is watered down.

Yeah, disagree on that.  Depends on the religions and how strong-or not- their religious beliefs are.  In my experience, families can make religion more of an obstacle than the couple does.

with love everything is possible

marriage no one will go through all of that trouble without a very good reason .. Don't talk to me about anything other than love as there are many differences between the two ... might be religion, culture, opinions, traditions and a lot more ...

Love shall overcome all of this and a lot in common is the key to make this work ... if you will have big disagreements now then ... what would happen next?

Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present moment. (Gautama Buddha)

Britexpat, what if neither of them are religious??? I dont think it'll fail then. Will it? 

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Very difficult. Love can carry you through many obstacles, but thigs usualy get harder when children arrive or you have to deal with extended familes.

In my experience, inter cultural marriages can work, but inter-religous marriages usually fail.

it's pretty annoying eh?.. i mean all this Kahramaa things (not my buddy's phone calls..)

yeah.. people came today... will see what they can do....

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Probably can work better especially if you dont' understand what the other is saying!

Had two long term partnerships from different continents.......is about your personal values, expectations and needs.

I tend to agree with you - if they want to keep the marriage common sense, compassion, and compromise will help over difficult times depending on the personalities.

Yes I think it can work very well if they can tolerate each other for a long time.

I dream of a better tomorrow where Chickens can cross the Road without having their motives questioned - Unknown

Ms. you be careful what you are offering - someone might just come and fix you lol lol

early morning i got call from the buddy with regard to that...

was surprized to hear that....

i think some inspecotrs came to the house.....

there are a lot living testimonies that this kind of relationship works...

you got to work harder in order to make a relationship work, and this goes to all sort of "mixes" "combination" of nationalities you got in mind.. Love conquers all as they say..  

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we have got a shortage yesterday... hey someone from KAHRAMAA with BIG... LOVE.. can you pls fix it???

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ıf they love each other too much that can make thıngs and dıfferences work together...love and respct is the secret

love has nothing to do with that...if they NEED each other, they will work it out..

if not.. forget about it....no any "love" can help....

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It can work of course an it does work see many of the mixed marriages around the world. People learn to compromise and to adjust if they are clever.

but if they both will try to work it out, and both will adjust themselves  through the years of togetherness.... everything is possible.. why not? I know few examples when she is European/Canadian/Eastern European, and he is Jamaica/Lebanese/Mexican… or she is Brazilian, he is English…why not??

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Certainly it can work, and work well, depends on the individuals.