I put up with an abusive husband for 20 years. He also was my first boyfriend and I was very young when I met him. He too controlled my life. I also was not allowed any friends or to go anywhere without him. Or work outside the house. Eventually my love for him died. I left. I had to leave my 3 children with him for the same reason he would not let me leave with them. I understand nobody can persuade you to do anything. But one thing - try not to get pregnant again while your situation is like this or you will have more problems. I wish that he would get help or counselling but I doubt that he sees he does anything wrong. Is he religious? Are you? Pray. Maybe a religious person he respects can help. Slowly you have to find strength and I know it's hard when you have been put down. If you allow it you will have no self confidence left by the time he has finished with you. Sometimes love has to be strong and tough and you have to show him firmly that you love him but he is being weak for treating you this way. You must be a beautiful person, inside and out or he would not feel threatened by you. He is afraid you are too good for him. That is why men like this tread on women. He has the problem. He has to somehow see it and get help. My advice is if he won't get help you will either be physically dead or emotionally dead within a couple of years. Be very wise in how you go about dealing with him. Ask God to show you what to do.
I put up with an abusive husband for 20 years. He also was my first boyfriend and I was very young when I met him. He too controlled my life. I also was not allowed any friends or to go anywhere without him. Or work outside the house. Eventually my love for him died. I left. I had to leave my 3 children with him for the same reason he would not let me leave with them. I understand nobody can persuade you to do anything. But one thing - try not to get pregnant again while your situation is like this or you will have more problems. I wish that he would get help or counselling but I doubt that he sees he does anything wrong. Is he religious? Are you? Pray. Maybe a religious person he respects can help. Slowly you have to find strength and I know it's hard when you have been put down. If you allow it you will have no self confidence left by the time he has finished with you. Sometimes love has to be strong and tough and you have to show him firmly that you love him but he is being weak for treating you this way. You must be a beautiful person, inside and out or he would not feel threatened by you. He is afraid you are too good for him. That is why men like this tread on women. He has the problem. He has to somehow see it and get help. My advice is if he won't get help you will either be physically dead or emotionally dead within a couple of years. Be very wise in how you go about dealing with him. Ask God to show you what to do.