You are absolutely right. One of the few advantages of getting older is that you tend to accept yourself as you are and the side you show to the outside is closer to the person you really are on the inside. When younger it is tempting to try and reinvent yourself and to show that reinvention to those you are trying to attract. But you cannot keep it up.

Most of us think that we are unlovable as we really are and we try to show a different person that is deserving of love. Fact is, we all deserve love no matter how flawed we are. But to get it, you gotta learn how to give it! 

A man can be happy with any woman, as long as he does not love her. Oscar Wilde