But it kind of annoying sometimes turning up with the same exact clothes or sometimes I don't want her to get hurt either. We were at the party once and one of my friend cannot tolerate her lies and cross questioned her it was not a pleasant experienced for everyone.

Talking to her is useless and she couldn't get our "hint" perhaps due to her poor english.

Of course helping out her family is definitely a good thing but her husband already doing that she just decided to do more without him knowing it. The bad part is she also lie by saying to her husband that she spends the money on their groceries etc but pocketing the money.