in our subsconscious mind, we have a set of beliefs which we want to hold on to and prove to be right. Hence, when given the same situation, we commit what we have done in the past just to prove to ourselves that what we believe to be right is right. There is no amount of good advice and intention from friends that could help us outgrow the motivation to do what we believe to be right and suitable to our respective personalities. The key to stop following and doing the same pattern lies within each of us. When we have come to accept to ourselves that what we want, what we need, what we believe are not completely right and could be changed, then that's only the time when given the same situation, we'll handle it differently and wisely.