shera said "...if a man loves you enough he will cross the pacific ocean just to have you."

Wish that were true but it's not really. Many variables - including family responsibilities, lack of self-esteem, etc. Well, if the intention is true, then it's just a matter of timing.

I know one couple - the guy faced the girl's parental objections and worked at improving himself and eventually wore down the parental objections (took him 7 years) and managed to get married. They are very happy together. it depends on the individuals and only those directly involved will ever really know for sure.

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