I agree with Cat and Qatarisun - it must have been an arranged marriage and she probably wasn't that much into you. Shame! I feel for you guys. You just need to sit down and talk about it - figure out a way to make things work. It is hard to say how she feels other than to discuss (everyone is different), but if she really doesn't love you and finds it hard to get to love you, then... do you have an option for divorce?